Why You Can’t be Like Them

Yes dear, you can’t be. Because you aren’t them.

Today, I was sitting with a friend of mine. I had noticed it yesterday as well and it was the same today, she was a little upset about something and she just wouldn’t tell. So after a lot of pestering, she finally told me. And what she said, let me be honest, was a little disheartening.

My friend told me something which many would find pleasing in the starting and then it would turn into displeasure. At least that is what I felt. She said to me that she doesn’t have enough brains and she can’t do anything. So I asked her what do you wanna do and why do you think you don’t have enough brains? She said she wants to become…like ME. Yes, like me. And I was shocked. So I asked her that why is it so. She said, “you’re so good at all sorts of things and manage to get good grades. I wanna be like that.”Let me tell you something about her. She had performed way better in the recent exams we had than in the previous one…it was improvement on a great scale. That is why I found it weird- hr being so uncomfortable with herself. And so I told her something very important, which all of us MUST remember.

I am not a goal, just like nobody is. A person cannot possibly desire to be like someone else because the ultimate truth is that everyone is different. It should make me feel good that she considers me a goal but it doesn’t. Because that is one of the most negative type of psychology. Role models are different. Role models are people who inspire, who make you believe that you can do it. But I can’t imagine being exactly like Malala Yousafzai, simply because she is just GREAT. I can just aspire to become something as good as her but not her, because then I won’t be original and being original is one of the most important things, I believe. You might be extremely good at something the other is not, and vice-versa. What is the point of setting such a goal which ultimately makes you lose what you are?

I am imperfect and have a long way to go, that is what I told her. I might be the ideal person according to you but I know I need to improve myself. My competition is myself, not the next prodigy I know of. YOU should be your only competition, because someone getting 40% doesn’t get 90% in the next try even if they try their hardest to beat the topper of the class. It is great that you want to be good at something, but it doesn’t mean you lose your confidence and self-esteem along the way. Ultimately, these are the two things which will help you reach your goal, along with determination, because whatever you believe about yourself on the inside is what you will manifest on the outside.

-C ❤

What If?

What if all the colours faded away,

From the face of the Earth?

What if all the leaves shed,

From all the plants and trees?

What if the birds stopped singing,

Each morning when I woke up?

What if the oceans and the rivers dried out,

In a matter of years?

What if the soil turned dry,

On all of the land we know?

What if the air we breathe,

Turned all into smoke?

What if all the sounds we heard,

Were screeching of horns and screaming of living beings?

Will that be the day we realise

That there is no other place to call home

That there is no other air to breathe, no more water to drink

Will that be the day we pray

For the sun to shine again

For the flowers to bloom again

Will that day be the day our ears yearn

To hear the singing of birds

To hear the waves striking the shore

Will that be the day the silence of nature

Seem deafening

Will that be the day our hearts will ache

To see the green leaves again

To breathe fresh air again

Will that be the day when we won’t have an answer

To the tears in our children’s eyes

To the questions they ask us

Will that be the day all of us realise,

What have we done?

-C ❤

 

The Imperfectionist

Perfection appeals to all

At least that is what they all show

But what about those imperfect souls

Who look for perfection in imperfection

Who find beauty in the cracks and scars

They never expect to see every stroke of a brush in the right place

Rather, every stroke of brush in the most unexpected place on the canvas

Because that perfect portrait can be created by an amateur with practice

But that unique piece can only be created by an imperfection-ist

Who’s work is influenced by his heart and not by the desire to be appreciated

By the society which looks at it with only its eyes.

Try, dearest, try to see

What the eye can’t, but the heart can

Try to see, how all the wrong strokes are actually the right ones

And all the imperfection

Is just perfection in disguise.

 

The sun might just shine the brightest,

But it is the moon which lights up the dark, even with its scars.

-C ❤

 

 

Follow It.

Sometimes when I’m on my bed, ready to go off to sleep, I think. Because obviously, you become the most curious and knowledgeable person in this world when you have to sleep. But that’s another thing.

I think about how the society works. You’re a kid, you go to school, go to college, get a degree, earn money and live. For the first 20+ years of your life, you study to have a good life. For the rest of your life, you get a job, earn money and grow old. So what is the purpose of life? We’re just here, trying to earn money and buy stuff for ourselves and then eventually die and leave all that to decay. That’s temporary happiness, I guess, because eventually, you do get bored of stuff.

We aren’t here to just pay bills and lead our lives with materialistic things. The sole objective in lives of most of the inviduals is to get a degree, a job, money, a house and settle down. This term though- ‘settle down’. What does it even mean? Does it mean ‘get a house of your own and live’? Does it mean ‘have a nice family and all luxuries of life’? I don’t know what it means, honestly. How it is interpreted, is a mystery. I’m sure it doesn’t mean that ‘have enough money to buy all that you want and be happy’. Cause it’s just not possible.

What about that passion? What about that one thing which you can never even think about giving up? You don’t have to just give up everything for earning as much money as possible. It is important, for living a decent life but material possessions must not be given more importance than what actually matters- relationships, passion and personality. Once lost, money can be earned again. Once lost, a thing can be bought again. But once lost, a part of you is hard to get back. And everything that matters to you and everything you are is a part of you.

Passionate​ people are called crazy, but they’re the ones who are actually happy. They might not care about stuff like what kind of reputation will it create for them, but they care about all the things which an ordinary, boring person driven by no desire doesn’t. They care about others and their goal isn’t to just get a job and earn money and buy that certain thing which their friend has. They think with their brains, but follow their heart. And those, my friends, are the best kind of people.

If you want to be extraordinary, do extraordinary. It takes nothing to blend in with the crowd, but it does take everything to stand alone. Great things are achieved by those who don’t even look at the ordinary twice. And those great things aren’t fame or money, they are love, respect and kindness. If today someone wants to be an artist or a dancer or even a collector, there won’t be many who would support them. But if they’re the kind to follow their hearts, they’ll walk on that path alone and acheive what they desire. These are the kind of people who stand out- the ones who follow their true calling. The ones who don’t care what the world says. The ones who aren’t afraid to show who they are.

Luna Lovegood wasn’t the brightest witch of her age, but she sure was the most extraordinary one. Facebook wouldn’t be there today if Mark Zuckerberg hadn’t followed his heart. Disney wouldn’t have been there if it weren’t for Walt Disney’s determination. There would be no light if Thomas Edison had given up so easily.

So, the next time you feel stressed thinking about what you’re gonna do when you grow up, think about what all you love. You’ll find the answer.

-C ❤

3 Values I Live By.

 All of us live by some values. There is a certain set of principles everyone follows and sticks to, no matter what. I think one should do so, because they act like a pillar, especially when one is in a dilemma. 

1. Respect yourself, before you expect others to do so.

It is a very popular saying that if you want to be respected, you should respect yourself first. And that is true. If you can’t believe in yourself, if you can’t respect yourself, then you mustn’t expect others to do the same because something comes true only when you make it true and that is only possible by believing. Only and only if you believe in yourself and are confident about yourself, you will give that vibe and nobody would think of you any less than what you are      

2. Those who matter, don’t mind, and those who mind, don’t matter.

THAT, my friends, is the key to happiness. When you lose someone who matterred a lot to you just because of a small misunderstanding on their part, you must understand that if they had known you well enough or if they were sensitive enough, they would’ve been more considerate and understood your actual intentions. Those who actually know you and care about you will be the ones who will always be by your side till the end of time and the ones who just show that they care will show their real colours with time and that would be the moment where you would realise that they were never actually the people you’d want to be with. Those will be the people who will force you to believe that there is nobody is trustworthy, but the truth is that the ones standing by your side will be the ones who will hold your hand and tell you that’s it’s gonna be okay. Those are the ones that are worth holding on to.

3. When the going gets tough, the tough get going.

This motto helps me get over sadness faster. If you’re fully aware of and understand the problem from all perspectives, it won’t take too much time to solve it or just get over it. You’ll eventually realise that whatever happened, it was for the better only. If you hadn’t gone through a bad time, you wouldn’t have known the value of the good ones. Also, you must constantly tell themselves ‘This too shall pass’ or ‘I’ll get through this’ , just like you’ve sailed through bad times earlier. Remember, you are not the only one who has problems, everyone does. So pull up those socks, and deal with it.

Don’t change just because someone wants you to. Change because each new day gives you a chance to become a better version of yourself. 

-C ♥